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arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: How a month and a half on Paxil taught me to love being shy.

The comment:

If you are male, the best "drug" for social anxiety is weightlifting. (No, you don't need to be a huge-ass body-builder-douche, if you don't do 'roids you probably won't be one, you'll look normal and athletic.)

I think probably it's all about testosterone - weightlifting increases the levels of those and thus makes us feel more "manly" and that just blows away the insecurity.

I'm not a scientist, so that testosterone stuff is just a guess, but it was amazing how at the age if 17 it transformed me from a shy, withdrawn, never-look-people-in-the-eyes teenager to a "real man" - relaxed, confident, one who talks to people as a real equal. Much of social interaction has hidden traces of very primitive instincts behind it: the sexual instinct and the fight instinct, and weightlifting gives you confidence in both (even though you would still be beaten to a pulp by any 120 pound Thai Box fighter, but that doesn't matter, you probably don't actually need to fight: it's just the feeling) which transforms into a relaxed and confident social interaction.

Another way to put it is that as an Aspie, I always felt alien from both the world and from my body. My idea of "me" is something in my head who tries to drive my body with a remote control and it just doesn't work well. Weightlifting got me to connect with my body, it made by body a part of the "me", and through the body as a medium, it made me connect with the world and other people. (Probably it's something about strenghtening some under-used neural pathways that connect the "self" parts of the brain with other parts.)

Now at 30 I'm often too lazy to do it, but whenever I do it for a few months, my Aspiehood just goes away.

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: How to get a merchant account - a series of hoops

I think at least for the initial startup period it would be a good idea to rely on Paypal or some similar service. The hassle of getting a merchant account might in some cases eat up too much of the founder(s)' precious time. Some successful retailers (like this indie game one: http://2dboy.com/games.php) continue rely on Paypal though they have a large user base. I think the best time to get a merchant account would be once the sales start rising above something like 10K/month or so. In that way, you'll (hopefully) have an account before your sales (again hopefully) hits 100K or so.

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: Ask HN: Please review my webapp: Da Button Factory - create shiny buttons

I actually happened to use a website Cooltext (http://cooltext.com/Buttons) recently, and it also created buttons for you. Comparatively, your website's interface is definitely much better (more dynamic - buttons reflect changes immediately), but in terms of features/options it would be a good idea to take a look at Cooltext and try to add in some of the features that they offer. (Like a wider set of fonts to choose from, button special effects, etc.)

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: Technology is Heroin

All of this begs the question: What is the meaning of life?

If you think of it, everything people do is quite remarkably purposeless.

Why does life exist?

Why do you exist???????

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: X# - XML Oriented programming language

Because M&M is a tasty chocolate that is especially popular with children, the creators of X# want to send the message that their language is delicious toy suited for tots.

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: Apple 'Netbooks', Eh?

Quote from the article: By controlling the software that can be loaded and the hardware that can be attached, Apple's device will be simpler, easier to use and more reliable than a PC

This smells like the dreaded "Trusted Computing" with its hardware engraved DRM.

Until people are free to install whatever apps they want to install & use any operating system of their choice; Apple or any company that controls what software can be installed isn't going to derive much success from their computers.

arjungmenon | 17 years ago | on: After Credentials

A very similar situation exists in India. There are literally thousands of cram schools all over the country that prepare students to get into engineering colleges, med. schools, e.t.c.
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