phinkle's comments

I listen to guided meditations. They are easy to find online and sometimes only take ~15 min. Here are some of the websites that I use:

https://www.tarabrach.com/guided-meditations/

http://self-compassion.org/category/exercises/#guided-medita...

http://www.mindfulselfcompassion.org/meditations_downloads.p...

I agree that overwhelmingly the experience for most "women in tech" is positive because we also love technology and building things, but its the small things that really make a difference. I think (although I can't speak for her) the author also experiences these small differences, like when her idea wasn't taken seriously because of her gender. Sometimes these things are easy to miss, but once you are on the lookout its a slippery slope to thinking that almost everything happening to you is because of your gender and its good to call people out on that. I have certainly misjudged actions, but there have also been times when people were discriminating against me because of my gender and those are the thing that we really need to have a conversation about. Sometimes these ideas or comments are minor and we can get past them like the in the author's case, but sometimes they have an impact. For example when I was taking APCS in high school, my programming partner (Asian male) was asked to join the UIL team and I was not, even though we were at the same skill level. There could have been other reasons that I wasn't asked, but since we both turned in the same assignments and had similar interactions with our old, southern teacher, I doubt it.

The first review about a wife buy Echo for her husband with Parkinson's warms my heart. Its so inspiring to see how technology has such a great impact on people's lives! Definitely would recommend reading as a pick-me-up for the day.

One problem I have with this is that technical interviews are not as straightforward as orchestra auditions. Technical interviews are already argued about frequently and some important qualities in a candidate (culture fit, how easy they are to work with, how they handle pressure, etc) are hard to determine through a blind interview. As you said, there would have to be non-blind interviews anyway. I know many companies already have preliminary online coding problems, but once the candidate gets to the meaty in-person or phone interviews, we are right back where we started.

Additionally, many of the standard algorithmic questions are similar to UIL and ICPC questions which are dominated by males for various reasons. Even if we could have completely blind interviews, I don't think that a significantly higher percentage of women would get the job because of larger problems in the tech industry like convincing minorities to join clubs like UIL and ICPC or enter the tech industry in the first place. That being said, I still think this is an interesting idea. I would definitely like to go through a blind phone interview to see if the interviewer treats me differently. Bring on the voice changer.

As a Texan who moved to New York City for the summer I really missed Southern hospitality (and Tex-Mex). When I came back to Texas the Southern hospitality did feel fake until I got used to it again. Although some of it probably is fake, I think most of it is genuine. Just like when I moved to NY it seemed like everybody was a depressed workaholic, when in reality that they are probably as you say trying "to minimize their impact on other people". Likewise I'm sure Southerners come off as fake until you get used to the culture. The pace of life is much slower and people love to make small talk. Also we don't ask people how their day is going so that we can figure out details about their life and judge them. Its just a nice thing to do.

I don't think cleanliness is the biggest issue when it comes to shared bathrooms since both men and women can be clean or messy. As a woman I would be most concerned about periods. Some women try to hide when they are on their period for various reasons. If you are sharing a bathroom either everybody will know you are on your period (and the guys would have to be okay with tampons and such) or you would have to hide all of your feminine products which would be annoying.

That's really awesome! Maybe I am looking at the wrong hacker houses. Which ones did you stay in?

If you are living in a house with 10+ people then it is going to be messy (messy being unclean at times) and if you can't handle that then you shouldn't live in a hacker house whether you are a girl or a guy. I was trying to make the point that I am a pretty chill person and wouldn't mind a mess yet people still tell me not to live in a hacker house.

I really hope that some day there is an all female or at least half female hacker house. I really like the idea of a hacker house and love being around smart tech people but some guys don't know how to act around women (I'm sorry but there are guys like that out there and many of them are hackers). It is even worse if you are one of the only single woman in a close community. I've heard from male friends that live in hacker houses that I would feel uncomfortable even though I am a relatively reasonable person and am used to living in messy spaces with other people. Also its nice to be around other women in case you need an emergency tampon or advice on whether you should wear your pumps or your wedges or want to bitch about what its like to be a female hacker.