I tend toward a kind of moderate defeatism, where you accept that for the foreseeable future, men are going to face a dystopia of constant rejection, and women are going to get way more romantic attention than they ever wanted (a lot of it shallow). Sex is just one (probably the most glaring) example of the whole "men compete/women choose" power dynamic.
I'm not arguing for some weird Spartan-style separation of the sexes like the MGTOW/TRP people say. Most people are going to be happier having relationships; it's just a necessary suffering of life, like looking for a job or getting dental care.
On the positive side, things do start to equalize as people get into their 30s and 40s, because women face the time pressure to have kids. But I wouldn't say it evens out all the way.
I'm not arguing for some weird Spartan-style separation of the sexes like the MGTOW/TRP people say. Most people are going to be happier having relationships; it's just a necessary suffering of life, like looking for a job or getting dental care.
On the positive side, things do start to equalize as people get into their 30s and 40s, because women face the time pressure to have kids. But I wouldn't say it evens out all the way.