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spike_protein | 2 years ago | on: Ask HN: How many of you feel lonely in a crowd?

I've made a routine of visiting my favorite café for almost a year now. There have been a few days when I've felt a sense of loneliness, keeping to myself and observing the people around me. While I'm not actively seeking just any friend, as a straigth guy I do fantasize about finding a meaningful connection and overcoming the solitude that occasionally creeps in.

One particular day, a child mischievously spat on some desks and swiftly made a run for it. The following day, I noticed a software engineer who frequented the café almost daily, much like myself. Curiosity led me to strike up a conversation with him, inquiring if he had witnessed the child's prank. This led to discussions about our respective jobs, eventually blossoming into a friendship. Unfortunately, he later moved to another city, and was a good guy.

My advice is to keenly observe people around you, engage in conversations, but exercise caution in placing trust. For instance, there's a person who consistently greets me at the café but never purchases a drink to himself. On one occasion, he asked about my well-being, but I hesitated to delve into a deeper conversation, suspecting he may be taking advantage of free resources such as electricity and wifi. I believe this behavior is ethically questionable.

In conclusion, it's crucial to seek out genuine connections similar to oneself. While the transient nature of friendships can bring moments of loneliness, the pursuit of meaningful connections is a journey worth undertaking.

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