Sorry about your situation and I sincerely hope you get out of this soon.
My 11 year old son passed away earlier this year fighting cancer, he suffered from it twice over the past 6+ years. Our entire lives for the past few years have been trips and stays away from home
The first thing I can say is , you have to take care of yourselves both physically and mentally to be able to take care of your mother. You would end up making numerous decisions both small and large and the whole thing is taxing.
In the initial stages of the diagnosis, we did not know what hit us, initially I took a break from work until I could get a grip of the situation. We realized that no matter what, we have to deal with it and keep our son happy and safe, there is nothing much we can do apart from keeping him happy.
Working helped me (Working from Hospital) , it helped me keep the focus and not getting overwhelmed with sadness. I used to work for an hour, then back to my son and so on in the first half of the day.
For you personally, figure out what works for you as a diversion, Work, reading books , movies etc. You need some time off to keep you balanced. I tried all these for the last 6 years – depending on my mood and it definitely helped.
Please take to other families at the hospital etc., it helps.
Please make sure you spend quality time with your mom , doing things which you always wanted to do, talking things you always wanted to talk. It keeps them happy and it makes you happy.
Sometimes , she might not tell you what she is going through; be patient , be strong.
Have been a read only HN member for many years, registered to respond to this. If you want to talk please ping me back.
My 11 year old son passed away earlier this year fighting cancer, he suffered from it twice over the past 6+ years. Our entire lives for the past few years have been trips and stays away from home
The first thing I can say is , you have to take care of yourselves both physically and mentally to be able to take care of your mother. You would end up making numerous decisions both small and large and the whole thing is taxing. In the initial stages of the diagnosis, we did not know what hit us, initially I took a break from work until I could get a grip of the situation. We realized that no matter what, we have to deal with it and keep our son happy and safe, there is nothing much we can do apart from keeping him happy.
Working helped me (Working from Hospital) , it helped me keep the focus and not getting overwhelmed with sadness. I used to work for an hour, then back to my son and so on in the first half of the day.
For you personally, figure out what works for you as a diversion, Work, reading books , movies etc. You need some time off to keep you balanced. I tried all these for the last 6 years – depending on my mood and it definitely helped.
Please take to other families at the hospital etc., it helps.
Please make sure you spend quality time with your mom , doing things which you always wanted to do, talking things you always wanted to talk. It keeps them happy and it makes you happy.
Sometimes , she might not tell you what she is going through; be patient , be strong.
Have been a read only HN member for many years, registered to respond to this. If you want to talk please ping me back.