CraigBuchek | 15 years ago | on: Why you should contribute to Open Source?
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CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: What's up with kernel.org ?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Why We Haven't Met Any Aliens (2006)
This doesn't quite explain the lack of communication signals. But if nobody can colonize the galaxy, then there would be less sources of signals.
BTW, the Wikipedia article on the Fermi Paradox (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fermi_paradox) does a very good job of detailing all the possible explanations.
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Why We Haven't Met Any Aliens (2006)
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: I'm way too shy, please help
I used to put my head down when passing people, to avoid eye contact. Silly as it sounds, I was able to help with that by humming the Argent song "Hold Your Head Up" in my head when passing people.
Another thing I did was to put myself in situations where I HAD to interact with other people. Sometimes this worked, and sometimes it didn't. I found that bars didn't work -- I'd mostly just stand there by myself. Then I'd go home and feel like a failure. (Note that I felt like a failure for NOT putting myself out there and talking to people. To me, that's more regrettable than anything stupid I might have done.)
Joining some clubs where I had an interest helped a lot. At first I just took it in. Then I started offering input during discussions. Eventually, I got to the point where I gave presentations in front of the group, and even larger groups. Now I also run the group (a local LUG). I wrote myself some tips on giving presentations, as well as for others, to share what I learned. My best tip to stop being nervous in this situation is: "Remember that the audience members are just like you, and are interested in what you have to say."
Leverage what you're good at to improve the things that you're not good at. For example, as I said, I was terrible at bars. But I'm good at writing -- and conversation once I know people. So I found that online dating worked really well for me. I got to meet people, but only after I got them interested in me from our written exchanges. At this point, I'd be more comfortable talking to them in person.
Another thing you can do is latch onto a friend that's more outgoing. Make sure it's someone who won't push you out of your comfort zone too far too fast. But have them take you places where you can meet people. They can introduce you and get the conversation started.
Eventually, you'll get to a tipping point where you realize that "failing" isn't so bad, and that "failures" are just learning experiences. Then you'll be able to say "what the heck" and not care so much about what other people think.
Good luck!
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Negative Mass An amusing thought experiment, or the Secret of the Universe?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: Good, lightweight bug tracking system for small team?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: Does an index fund count as diversifying?
Another nice thing about a Roth IRA is that you can withdraw all the principal (the part you already paid taxes on) early with no penalty. (Actually, you can withdraw the interest from individual accounts -- you just can't withdraw more than you put into ALL your Roth IRAs.) Although my bank seems to not understand this very well, and the government forms aren't very clear on it either.
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: On the Morality of Global Warming Criticism
If you think that there's some sort of conspiracy going on, which is more likely -- energy companies making billions of dollars, or scientists making millions of dollars -- to be spending their money more effectively to change people's minds in order preserve their future profits?
Let's say 9 out of 10 doctors told you that you've got an 80% chance of dying if you don't change your diet. Would you think that those 9 doctors are conspiring against you? Or would you change your diet? That's pretty much the situation we're in here. (Except that the 1 doctor who disagrees also does a lot of work for the snack food industry.)
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Poll HN: Where to live in the bay?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask PG: What have I done wrong?
Setting the threshold around 1.5 might work better. Or perhaps whatever threshold might allow 75% or 80% of readers/contributors to vote.
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: How can I reclaim some of my commute time?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Poll: What bug tracking software do you use?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: group project for HN or if anyone wants to run with it
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: The real health-care problem isn’t moral, but structural
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: Best code editor?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Ask HN: What language do you think in?
I've also been known to write out in mostly English sentences as comments, then fill in the code that implements that explanation.
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: Microsoft OneApp : Microsoft Introducing OneApp
Can the OneApp developers please spend some time working on Microsoft Office? Please?
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: _why is no more
CraigBuchek | 16 years ago | on: _why is no more
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