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I was just having a go at your vocabulary use - which I don't object to in any way - just reminded me of his. I actually agree with your analysis of his viewpoint on the matter. There are some valid aspects to it but that ship has sailed.

Jordan Peterson, is that you? :D

I agree with you. Nuance is something you don't see acknowledged and used sufficiently. Everything is made to be black or white when it's mostly grey all of the time. At the same time, constantly staying in nuances prevents you from moving forward, so there's that.

I'm not aware of it being a theory, but I strongly recommend this read for anyone who entertains this "boredom" root cause idea, which seems bonkers. Also, regardless of that, it's a massively interesting read. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Wages_of_Destruction

Spoken like Gordon Gekko. That's sadly true though.

Why is there even a need to fall back onto something? Migrating to another platform he considered less fronting and superficial was his choice, but I don't see the need nor appeal in that, personally.

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I'm not sure I agree with this analysis.

I don't have a lack of self confidence and I consider the vast majority of Facebook posts to be fronting, even if the person actually posting is not actively aware of the fact that they are fronting. A lot of the time the awareness of "fronting" is absent, when it is in fact the main purpose driving the person to upload. Why else would people post very personal things about their lives to an audience they don't even want to reach out to on a regular basis? Even when they are in the same city, etc? Because those are not friends, and if they are not friends, the uploader is an actor presenting their daily demo real.

Of course there are exceptions to this, but I don't think that saying that a vast majority of people on Facebook are fronting is a reflection on our own personal lack of confidence, as much as it is barely a generalization.

Well said. As someone else said above, tying career success to off-call work is bonkers (both for the employers and the employees), yet sadly common.

Yet so common.

They don't have to persuade anymore. People mostly self convinced long ago that this was acceptable and expected.

This was an awesome read. I watched Pumping Iron some years back, but this makes me want to watch it once more!

I do agree with what you say. On the flip side of that, I also think Netflix has been greatly beneficial in offering the opportunity to both produce and distribute movies that would have had a hard time getting to market otherwise with the current studio oligarchy. Going away from the recommendation topic, this enhances the types of movies available, which is direly needed in the age of superhero dominance.

>For example, its revenge porn policy and recently created software tool—which asks people to preemptively upload nude photos of themselves so that they can be used to block anyone from uploading that photo in the future—was widely mocked.

This is hilarious. I understand the logic, but to believe that users will willingly submit nudes as a preemptive measure seems to widely underestimate the ramification of the user's decision-making process, and the reliability of Facebook when it comes to user privacy protection. Hey, let me upload my nudes to a Facebook software, they've been handling privacy really well so far, said no one ever.

Isn't the problem you're mentioning pervasive across and regardless of genders though?

When a woman is networking with a man - akin to a man networking with a woman - the intent of "looking to sleep with" can and most probably will be derived from it in the same way, instinctively. When women are networking between each others, everyone is also clear what the purpose is, professional only, akin to when men are networking between each other.

There seems to be many other factors at play behind that "social understanding" for lack of a better term. I suppose one of them being the fact that the """norm""" in relationships being that of an heterosexual one, therefore leading to the unconscious acceptance that same gender people networking together is only professional, whereas two people of different gender might have another layer of intent behind it?

The only difference being that there are more men in high seniority position than women, therefore leading to a context where women need to network with men more than the reverse.

Only if you let it - with some exceptions of course.

This is definitely a plague - when it comes to time usage - in current society. The perception of busyness as opposed to actual productivity. We have all encountered some examples of that in all the offices we've worked in. I am baffled by: 1. How pervasive that problem is 2. How a large majority of people seem to agree but no one company has the guts to drive the behavioural change by implementing actual flexibility policies, which go beyond nice-sounding PR

Good point. To answer your question blatantly: by law. Not saying "you can't ever tip". But more to frame the employer/employee contract and prevent the employee relying on tips, and instead having a contractual/legal framework for his salary.

Let me be clear in saying however that I'm not a fan of shaping culture changes by legal requirements. So I'm second guessing myself a little too now, but I really think the culturally accepted tipping expectation is detrimental overall as per my original comment.